Marriage is a beautiful thing especially if it is between two people who love each other and share the same dream and goals.
Unfortunately, many marriages have failed to reflect the qualities mentioned above, but have rather degenerated to a war zone.
How does one get out of this kind of arrangement, especially when every attempt to make it work has failed?
Below are some tips on how you can get out of a bad marriage:
Consult your lawyer: Walking out of your marriage may sound very easy, but you may actually face some legal issues by doing so. Your best bet is to talk to a lawyer and plan your next move. Matters like joint accounts, loans, insurance policies, etc, need to be adequately sorted out since will be starting life afresh. It is very important that you settle every outstanding issues before taking any major step.
Inform your children: If your marriage has produced children, they will be affected by the breakup. It is important that you confide in them and tell them the truth. explain to them why it is necessary for you to leave your spouse. Being honest with your children will help them see the wisdom behind your decision, which in turn will make them understand and respect your wish.
Be financially independent: You need to have a steady means of livelihood so that you can be financially independent and not have to rely on your partner for money. If you must end your marriage, you must be able to take care of yourself when become single again. You need to be able to cater for yourself (and your children, if you have any).
Relocate: Having tied every loose ends, the next thing on your to-do list should be moving to another location. This is important because you need to put some distance between you and your spouse, and also shed all the bad memories and baggage. This is one of the first steps in starting over a new life.
Don't call your partner: Having decided to to break ties with your spouse, it is very essential that you stand your ground. Make sure you don't call your partner anymore even if you are tempted to. Aside from putting physical distance between you two, you also need to put emotional distance. That is the only way you can completely be free from them, and fully move on with your life.
Ending a relationship is never easy, even if it was a really bad one. But knowing that you are making the right decision will help you go through with it.